What HR Gets Wrong in the Moments That Matter Most


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Nearly every week, somewhere in the world, someone steps onto a DisruptHR stage and challenges how we think about work.

Every two weeks, Disruptdates brings you some of the most interesting ideas emerging from our global community — practical insights, bold thinking, and opportunities to get involved.

In this issue: insights from recent DisruptHR stages, three Talks challenging how HR shows up in critical moments, a community reflection from DisruptHR Pittsburgh, and upcoming events across the globe.


Insights From the DisruptHR Stage

Across recent DisruptHR events in Nairobi, KE and Denver, CO, several consistent, practical insights emerged around how organizations must evolve to stay human-centered in increasingly complex environments.

First, multiple Talks emphasized that leadership must shift from control to trust — focusing on creating psychological safety and empowering employees rather than managing compliance.

Second, there was a recurring theme that employee experience is now shaped by everyday moments, not programs — small, intentional actions by managers matter more than large-scale initiatives.

Third, speakers repeatedly highlighted that well-being is inseparable from performance, urging organizations to redesign work itself — not just add benefits — to reduce burnout and sustain energy.

Finally, a consistent thread was that technology (especially AI) should augment, not replace, human judgment, reinforcing the need for thoughtful integration grounded in values, not efficiency alone.


What HR Gets Wrong In Moments That Matter Most

HR exists to support people — but in the moments that matter most, there’s often a gap between intention and experience.

These three DisruptHR talks explore where we’re getting it wrong — and what real support could look like instead.

⚠️ The Wake-Up Call

I Got Divorced Between Meetings: What HR Gets Wrong About Crisis by Amanda Wolf — Vice President of Human Resources at Northern Jet at DisruptHR Orlando 23.0

Sometimes the people who seem “fine” at work are carrying the heaviest load.

▶︎ Watch the Talk: I Got Divorced Between Meetings: What HR Gets Wrong About Crisis

Amanda shares her own experience navigating a deeply personal crisis while continuing to perform at a high level — and the uncomfortable truth it reveals about how organizations respond to employee struggles.

Too often, support looks like a policy, a program, or a referral.

But:

“An EAP flyer is not a culture of support.”

👉 Key Takeaway: Real support isn’t a checklist — it’s human, flexible, and often uncomfortable.

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🚪 The Reality We Avoid

When Home Isn't Safe — What HR Gets Wrong About Domestic Abuse at Work by Carly Jones — Neurodivergent & SEND Practitioner, Advocate, and Keynote Speaker at DisruptHR Nottingham 4.0

What if the behaviors we flag as “performance issues” are actually signs of something much deeper?

▶︎ Watch the Talk: When Home Isn't Safe — What HR Gets Wrong About Domestic Abuse at Work

Carly challenges how organizations interpret and respond to domestic abuse in the workplace — highlighting how often policies replace compassion — and processes replace people.

Because the truth is:

“Domestic abuse doesn’t clock out when we clock in.”

👉 Key Takeaway: Safe workplaces aren’t built on policies alone — they’re built on trust, awareness, and the courage to respond with humanity.

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⚖️ The System We Misunderstand

The Addiction Epidemic in Your Office: What HR Gets Wrong About Substance Use by Tiffany Jenkins — Lead Consultant at TMJ Consulting LLC at DisruptHR South Jersey 6.0

Substance use is one of the most misunderstood — and mishandled — issues in the workplace.

▶︎ Watch the Talk: The Addiction Epidemic in Your Office: What HR Gets Wrong About Substance Use

Tiffany breaks down how outdated policies and “zero tolerance” approaches often create more risk than they prevent — especially as laws and realities shift.

Her key distinction:

“Off-duty use is not the same as on-duty impairment.”

👉 Key Takeaway: The opportunity isn’t stricter enforcement — it’s smarter, more human-centered systems that balance safety, compliance, and support.

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🧠 Why These Ideas Matter

In each of these moments — crisis, safety, and wellbeing — the instinct is often the same:

Create a policy. Follow a process. Check the box.

But these Talks point to a different path:

Support isn’t something you document. It’s something people experience.



Voices from the DisruptHR Community

After DisruptHR Pittsburgh 10.0 on April 1, 2026, attendee Rylee Hepler shared this reflection on LinkedIn:

"My first time at Disrupt HR Pittsburgh and WOW 🥹
I had such an amazing experience attending with Alaina Gettemy. From the conversations to the speakers, everything about this event was incredibly energizing. It was so valuable getting to connect with others in the HR space and beyond, while learning from such a wide range of perspectives and experiences.
The speakers were especially impactful. Each one brought something different to the table, and I left feeling inspired not just about HR, but about business and people in general.
This is one of those events that goes far beyond HR. Whether you’re in people ops, marketing, leadership, or just early in your career, there’s something to take away from it.
Honestly, it exceeded my expectations in every way, and I’m already looking forward to the next one in October. I’ll definitely be back." 🤍

Rylee Hepler — Team Member Engagement Specialist at Live! Casino Pittsburgh

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Upcoming DisruptHR Events

DisruptHR Albuquerque 4.0 - April 20, 2026

DisruptHR Moncton 4.0 - April 21, 2026

DisruptHR Sofia 6.0 - April 22, 2026

DisruptHR Cambridge 12.0 - April 23, 2026

DisruptHR San Diego 7.0 - April 23, 2026

DisruptHR Austin 7.0 - April 23, 2026

DisruptHR Skopje 4.0 - April 29, 2026

DisruptHR Milwaukee 6.0 - April 29, 2026

DisruptHR Colorado Springs 7.0 - April 29, 2026

DisruptHR St. Louis 6.0 - April 30, 2026

DisruptHR Lafayette 2.0 - April 30, 2026

DisruptHR Princeton 3.0 - April 30, 2026

DisruptHR Rochester 6.0 - April 30, 2026

DisruptHR Northern New Jersey 6.0 - April 30, 2026

DisruptHR Miami 5.0 - April 30, 2026

Explore the full list of upcoming DisruptHR events scheduled for 2026.


DisruptHR is powered by an incredible global community — and I’m grateful to be part of it with you. If something in this issue resonated, I’d love to hear from you — just hit reply and share your thoughts. I read every response.

Jennifer McClure — Founder & Chief Excitement Officer, DisruptHR LLC


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